Desperation for sanity
While enjoying our second honeymoon several months ago, Travis and I delved into a book I’d brought along out of desperation.
Desperation for our sanity.
Life at home was a little chaotic. The kids were fighting, a stir of rebellion was in the air, and our sweet baby girl had developed a stubborn streak a mile wide. We certainly don’t expect our kids to be perfect, but the lines we’d set as parents were getting crossed way too many times. Ever been there?
“With the plethora of material on parenting and the family, it is inspiring – and distressing – to see how few books are genuinely biblical. Here is a refreshing exception. Tedd Tripp offers solid, trustworthy, biblical help for parents. If you are looking for the right perspective, and practical help, you won’t find a more excellent guide.” – Rev. John MacArthur, pastor, author, radio Bible teacher
The hearts of our children
After reading Shepherding a Child’s Heart, the ‘aha’ moment struck. It wasn’t because of the kids we were losing our sanity, it was because of us.
If we’re honest, most of us secretly want child-rearing to be quick, easy, and hassle-free. Travis and I had fallen into the trap of going through parenthood with a sort of half-hearted attempt, assuming the kids would mature and straighten out eventually.
We put effort into training the oldest two boys, but as the others came along it seemed redundant to train each of them all over again. I mean, couldn’t they just be grandfathered in?
Reading the book was like getting a 2×4 cracked over our heads. It was the wake-up call we needed. We had the wrong focus, the wrong goals, and the wrong game plan.
We weren’t focusing on our children’s hearts.
Understanding our children
Sounds too simple, doesn’t it – to just say, ‘we need to focus on our children’s hearts’. What does that mean?
Our job as parents isn’t to live with our kids until they turn eighteen – it’s to love them, teach them how to be responsible adults, and to shepherd their heart. When you think about it, that’s a daunting and sobering responsibility.
So how do we go about shepherding our child’s heart? First, we need to understand them.
Think about when you first met your spouse. You wanted to get to know them, so you asked questions – you started conversations. You dug until you learned what their interests were, what motivated and frustrated them, and what their dreams were. . .shepherding our children’s hearts starts the same way.
Children don’t usually sit down and contemplate their actions. They don’t analyze why they said what they did or thought what they did. Part of the responsibility as a parent is to help our kids understand that the things we say and do – our attitudes and actions – are a reflection of something deeper – our heart attitudes.
The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks. ~ Luke 6:45
Join us for a parenting series
I hope you’ll join me for this five-part parenting series based loosely on Mr. Tripp’s book. As always, we make no claims to ‘perfect parenting’. We’re learning right along with you. Whether you agree with this book and series or not, I encourage all of us to use the Bible as our standard.
Ready to get started? Scootch on over, save me a seat, and I’ll dig into this thing called parenting right alongside you!
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